I had my first wedding I helped with this weekend. And I might have ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT!!!! Ok, let me start at the beginning. I arrived about an hour and a half before. I was given directions, a name tag, and a radio. Then begins the 47 boutonnieres and corsages that needing pinning. Beforehand I was chatting with the sound guy saying the guys looked so dapper in their tuxedos. And they did! They all had black tuxes, but the groom was wearing a white tie and vest, while the groomsmen had an interesting autumn looking camo vest and corresponding tie...
Anyways, its time for the men to go into the hallway, and its my responsibility to get them there. It was a little like herding cats. There were quite a few of them, including the minister and groom, there were 11 in all. When I thought I had all of them in there, we were still missing four. So two left to go get them and bring them to the back. In the meantime I'm keeping the 7 year old ring bearer from trying to inch out into the auditorium that is filling with people, pinning the junior groomsman's boutonniere, and telling the videographer that his camera stand is exactly where the line of groomsmen and groom will be standing in about ten minutes...
Meanwhile, the minister, who was from out of town, comes up to me and tells me he doesn't know where he is to stand. I stand there and think, holy moly. He wasn't there for the rehearsal. And now he's asking me what he's supposed to do. I have no idea! He's the minister, I'm pretty sure he should know what he's supposed to do a lot better than me. My pastor has done like a million of them, so I try and think of where he's at at the start of all this. Unfortunately, I don't really pay attention to where the minister is during weddings. (Yeah, definitely regretting that in this moment.) When I'm at a wedding, I'm too busy grinning at how lovely the bridesmaids are, how handsome the men look and how breathtaking the bride is. So I totally winged it and told him where he should stand and what was going to happen to get everybody onstage...
They are starting to seat the grandmothers, so it's time for the guys to line up. So I say, Excuse me gentlemen? The minister is the only guy who turns to me. Mostly because he was the closest man to me I think. I tug on the grooms' jacket and say, I need to say something. So he booms a "Hey! Listen to this lady!" And every head turns my way. I smile and say, Howdy. Don't forget that when you get your bridesmaid, stop at the end of the pews for the photographer to take your picture. And now would you please line up, it's about that time...
They line up and start ribbing the groom about him getting married, maybe she left, etc. etc. The minister and I are just laughing at all the comments and jokes but then really start laughing because one of them starts up with a Nah-nah, nah-nah-nah-nah, hey hey hey, goodbye!! Well, by the third nah, every guy in there is serenading the groom and its just plain hilarious!
And then its game time. I let them out. You would've have thought I just said lock and load, we are going to war. That was the expression on these guys' faces. Kind of like, I want to panic, but if I show fear others' around me will know and they'll eat me alive. (Definitely had to swallow my giggles there...) Give it a bit of minute so I don't look like I'm in the male processional then I creep up the back to the foyer to help get the bride ready...
The bridesmaids are already making their way down. I walk up to the bride and her father. She looks absolutely beautiful. And I say so. She says, Can you fix my dress? Of course I can! I probably would've whacked someone if she'd asked me to at that moment. Her dad is a smidge antsy. He looks at me and says, Are you nervous? I'm nervous. I bet you're not nervous. You've done this a million times. My response? I'm not nervous! And I've done this plenty of times. It was very gracious of God to not strike me dead right then and there for telling a bold-face lie, in a church foyer no less!
I fix her train, and try to give them a minute to themselves as much as I could being in the same room with a bride, her father, and about 15 seconds before his daughter becomes another man's beloved. Then I shut the doors, moved them right in front, opened them up, avoided as many cameras as possible, then shut them. And that's pretty much all she wrote. We clean up, lock up, and my first wedding was in the bag...
I loved doing this for a lot of reasons. One, seriously, who doesn't love a happy ending?! Two, I got to see what its like with the boys before one of them gets married, what a dad murmurs to his daughter before she walks down the aisle, and that if I can help a bride make her day special, I'm honored and privileged to do so...